What do you think are the biggest differences between people that succeed and people that do not succeed (without trying to quantify what success is, as it depends on the context and people’s perceptions and belief systems of what success means?)
I’m just trying to bring awareness to the fact that certain mindsets and certain belief systems can really be detrimental for us human beings to reach or achieve our goals and aspirations or put into practice whatever we need or want to put into practice.
According to the dictionary.com website, the definition of a mindset is:
“A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations.”
My personal understanding of this statement is that the power we have to follow certain belief systems (both consciously and unconsciously) is translated many times in how we face our problems or challenges. In the end it relates to our interpretation or perception of what the challenge is and how to overcome it. This is what is going to actually set the path or pave the road in order for us to achieve the outcome of what we want to achieve in life.
We all basically have common things that we have to deal with, in any stage of our lives, in any kind of profession or any kind of age. We always have to face challenges, obstacles and struggles; we always have to use different amounts of effort and focus to achieve our goals; we always have to face criticism (not only our own but from others); and we always have to deal with the success of others.
Whichever mindset you apply in any of these situations will set the pace of how you deal with any aspect of life.
There are many different kinds of mindsets that we can apply in our lives. And many times they either complement each other or they go against each other. You can have, for example, a fixed mindset in one spectrum of the equation and in the other spectrum you could have a growth mindset. The first has fixed ideas, strong and inflexible belief systems, whereas the other is open minded, flexible, adjustable and free to choose different paths.
The same with winners and losers mindsets, the same with a proactive and a retroactive mindset; the opposite of introverted will be extroverted, so you can have an introverted mindset or you can have an introverted mindset. You can have a mindset of being fearful all the time or you can have the mindset of being brave and courageous; you can have a mindset of a dreamer or you can have a mindset of being realistic. Of course, these are not totally the opposite and of course being a dreamer doesn’t mean that you are not realistic. You can be a dreamer and be realistic at the same time but just to give you examples of different types of mindsets that oppose each other.
You can have the mindset of a follower or a mindset of a leader; you can have a mindset of a greedy person or a person that focuses on gratitude. You can have a positive creative mindset or you can have a negative, boring mindset (in the sense that you don’t focus on creative aspects but you focus mainly on the grey aspects of life.) You can have the mindset of being confident, being sure about yourself and being trusting or you can have a mindset of being doubtful. You can have a mindset of being optimistic or a mindset of being pessimistic.
Where do you see yourself? In all the mindsets written above, do you see yourself in one spectrum or the other? And why do you think it is important to see yourself with a certain mindset? Another question that is interesting is: do you think all the mindsets, the most positive and the most empowering mindsets work in all situations? For instance, if you have a business, does one specific mindset work better in your business rather then in your relationships? Would one mindset work in your business in the same way that it works towards your health and fitness? Think about what kind of mindsets you’re actually focused on and which ones serve your best interests and which ones do not help you and empower you.
In the end, what I’m suggesting is that you see which mindset is appropriate to adopt for any given situation you face in your life, in a conscious way. Be really specific. And if you don’t have that mindset in place, there is something required, which is to make a mind shift.
Mind shifts only happen with awareness and again and again I find a must to create awareness of the situations that are happening in our lives, either consciously or subconsciously. Practicing self-awareness is perhaps one of the most important things to apply in our lives nowadays specially with so much information out there. There are so many different tips and tools being offered by this expert and that expert that we need an enormous amount of discernment to decide what we are going to use in our lives. We need to decide which kind of mindset(s) we are going to adopt and which kind of struggles and which kind of challenges or which kind of criticisms we are actually going to learn from.
There is nothing like being aware of the situations you are facing in order to grow from them. This is why I don’t believe in failure really, this is why I don’t believe in not succeeding because there is always a lesson, and once you learn the lesson or once you are able to take the lesson from the situation then you will always be a winner because you will always learn. And what is learning by the way? What is receiving knowledge? Is the capacity to actually use and put into practice what you learn and gather knowledge from. Once you learn something you are able to put it into practice, either consciously or subconsciously.
We are not robots and we cannot just program our subconscious and have it work for us in any given moment… or can we? This is an amazing question because in the end whatever you program your brain to do, or you mind to do, or whatever you program your mindset to be, whatever type of mindset you choose to adopt in any given situation is actually what is going to pave the road for you to achieve your goals, for you to be a better person and a more conscious and aware person in any given moment.
I will leave you with this question: which of the mindset types do you identify mostly? Here are some examples:
Adopting a mindset is always subjective not only to the personality of the person but to the situation. In any case, and there is always a but, there is always the same sort of aspects that we have to deal with: challenges, obstacles and struggles, effort, criticism and success of others. We always have to deal with these and by dealing with these we need to find what mindset actually helps us better to endure the challenges, to overcome the obstacles and struggles, to focus where we want to put our efforts in, to know how to take criticism (to learn from the criticism and not being attached to it or putting ourself down because of criticism,) and to deal with the success of others.
On another note, we all share one type of mindset, which is innate to being human, the mindset of always wanting to be the best at what we do. Nowadays we are raised to be the best and to be the winners and to fight others. If before we were taught fight in order to be the strongest, now we are fighting to have the biggest ego or to have the biggest amount of money in our bank account, have the most expensive items, have the biggest house, have the most successful and harmonious happy family, with dogs and pets and all sorts of things, and having the most expensive holidays anyone can think of.
What is your IQ and what is your EQ? This is what is relevant today and this is how we have been raised. My question is how can we remove ourselves from this kind of mindset that we need to be the winners to be fulfilled? If we realize that we just need to be happy with ourselves and be doing what we love to do, we can then choose to adopt mindsets that empower us to be our best selves. I do not believe we need to be earning as much money as possible. It is my conviction that we need to be happy and need to have the feeling that we are giving the most and bringing value to other people’s lives. When we do what we do because we love what we do and we are contribution for a better world then we achieve a sense of fulfilment. If you’re happy with the family that you have created, if you are happy with your income and with the outcome of your actions then I believe that you’re much happier then the billionaire that is totally unhappy with their health, with their spouse, with their children, with their businesses etc.
Think about what you value and think about what mindset you’re going to adopt in order to put forth that energy that focuses on what you value.
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